I once drove the logging roads of Marquette County, Michigan, following a local band, Da Yoopers, as they visited various hunting camps. The band was looking for a site for a video of their 1986 regional hit, “Second Week of Deer Camp” (apologies in advance if you decide to click the link), and I was taking a break from copyediting to cover the story for the Mining Journal newspaper.
Most men don't tend to compliment other men on their choice of clothing, but I always get an approving word from strangers when I put on a bow tie. I've had men cross a room to compliment my tie. Perhaps they feel I need encouragement.
Spelling or usage distinctions sometimes become shibboleths for copyeditors and pedants, no longer useful and therefore no longer worth worrying about. Witness the Associated Press Stylebook’s abandonment last year of keeping over for spatial relationship and more than for quantities.
“I have nothing but contempt for anyone who can spell a word only one way,” is one of those great things Thomas Jefferson never said but we sure wish he did. We do tend to insist on single spellings, more so than we did during Jefferson’s time, except to allow for the American variations handed down by the reform-minded Noah Webster.